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Relocating to a new home in a different state can be unsettling. It is important that a person understands how they personally relate to change when making a life changing decision. Is "change" typically difficult for you, or do you relish new ideas and situations and places? Sometimes it can be overwhelming if everything is new and different. A key factor is family, which can create comfort and security in your life. If you are bringing family with you, that is great. If you are leaving family behind, you may need to do a little preparation first.

To prepare for change, assess the situation you are about to get involved with. Compare it to what you have been used to. Think about what a wise person, in your view, might do to prepare for a smooth transition. Then do it! Assess what is really important to you, and whether or not you can carry these things on in your new home. If you cannot, what are you truly willing to give up? Small things matter. Things which seem minor now can matter in a big way later. If you belong to a gym, check out the availability of gyms that will be near your new neighborhood. Are the schools an important consideration? What about urban versus suburban and being close to entertainment, or near people you already know? Or near something you would like to start doing, like skating at an ice skating rink or taking classes at the University of Hawaii?

I have a client that came to see me. He had moved to beautiful Hawaii with his wife, the love of his life, and he had a great job. What's wrong with this picture, you might ask? Well, he thought he should be happy, and so did his wife--in fact everyone did, because all looked well on the surface. Instead, he found himself irritable and restless, and a little depressed. The answer turned out to be that he really had not given much thought or preparation to this major move of his life. He missed his family and friends back in L.A., where he had lived his entire life before "making the move." What he did not do was make sure there was continuity and "closure" in those parts of his old life that really mattered to him. Once he addressed these, he was fine--and happy in Hawaii!

Take care of the priorities in your life and you will weather the emotional factors easier. The bonds you feel with friends and family can be hard to replace--but you do not have to give them up to move to Hawaii. Figure out ways to stay in touch with those you will leave behind, or plan to visit them every so often. Call regularly on the telephone, and write often--all while giving yourself time to meet new people and giving yourself space to grow.

If you follow suggestions like these, and you take the time to plan a little, relocating will be a graceful transition to your new life. It can be everything you expect, and more! Enjoy!

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